Showing posts with label decisions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label decisions. Show all posts

Friday, March 14, 2014

Crazy Making

Why is it that we make ourselves crazy? We have beautiful, full lives. We have family, responsibilities, bills, headaches, jobs, laughter, love, and moments that come out of nowhere and shock us. And yet, we are always trying for perfection. When will we realize that what we have in this moment, right now, is perfection?

Recently, in an attempt to find more time for my family, I agreed to take on one more thing that would "solve all my problems." If I am trying to get more time for my family, why would I agree to doing something that took time away from my family? It makes absolutely NO sense. And yet, here I am stuck in the middle of it.

Every time I think of staying in to "see if it will work," I know in the pit of my stomach that it is the wrong thing to do. That I will not end up with boatloads of money, in fact it is much more likely that I will end up losing money. But then, every time I think of getting out, my stomach (again) goes crazy. I don't know if it is because I am afraid of being seen as a failure or because I may possibly make the wrong decision and lose out on "making it big."

And this brings me back to, why do we make ourselves crazy?

I know this whole post is a little cryptic, but I am kind of in the middle of it right now. Either way,  once I get myself out of the crazy cycle, I am going to have a great new experience to blog about. So, for now, please stick with me. I promise to get back to my "happy place" and share soon!


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Thursday, October 17, 2013

Landscaping Rookie, Closing the Gap

I never thought that I would be interested in landscaping other than scanning pictures and saying "ooh that looks pretty," or having favorite flowers (hydrangea, lilac, lupine, and daisies, in case you were wondering). This all changed when they started clearing the lot next to us to make room for a new house. Remember, in my post here, one of my positives to moving to this neighborhood was the tranquil setting and the privacy. Well, with the house going in next door, and the subsequent construction over the last few months, there is neither tranquility, nor privacy. 

Just as a reminder, here are some photos of our previously mostly-private back yard:

 
 Nice, right?

To be fair, we always knew that there would be a house built in the lot next to us. However, we thought that we would have a four or so feet of wooded buffer before the cleared lot. Unfortunately, due to an oversight, our lot was not surveyed. (Advice #1 when building a new house: MAKE SURE THE LOT IS SURVEYED BEFORE BUILDING) When the lot next to us was surveyed it was discovered that our lot line was incorrect. This had a few negative effects. We had to move our septic and leech field (not "we," our builder) and get our backyard relandscaped, AND we were left with a gaping hole of nothingness between our home and the neighbors. So much for privacy! (Advice #2 when building a new house: MAKE SURE TO LOOK AT THE SUBDIVISION PLAN TO SEE EXACTLY WHERE THE HOUSES AROUND YOU WILL BE PLACED. Ask yourself; Do I have enough of a buffer between me and my neighbors? If not, pick another lot, unless you are looking for close neighbors, of course.)

Don't believe me? Here you go:


Nice, right?

So, the Hubster and I decided that something needed to be done. If we were different sorts of people we may have made a big deal of our new lack of privacy, but instead we went into problem solving mode. At first we discussed fences, but realized that although they would be a good, quick solution, they would not provide privacy for the boys' upstairs bedroom windows. So, we quickly switched directions and started researching trees. We needed fast-growing trees, that would grow 12+ feet and that would be easy to maintain as neither of us are what you would call gardeners.

My researching spanned at least six weeks (not kidding) and I have to say that I know more about privacy screening trees for Zone 5 (that is our plant hardiness zone) than I ever wanted to know. I can now actually decipher the differences between quite a few arborvitaes and spruces. I know all about hemlocks which, by the way, was our first choice. Unfortunately the local nurseries were all out until spring and there was NO WAY I could deal with no privacy until then. 

After all of this, I actually find myself driving down the street trying to figure out what other people have in their lawns and then come home and research to see if those trees would be a better option. I even took a picture of a tree while driving (I know, not safe!) and brought it to one of my local nurseries to find out what it was. (A viburnum seiboldii if you are wondering.)

We ended up with eight trees. Yes, it was WAYYYY more money than we wanted to spend. Luckily the nursery was having a sale and gave us some awesome deals. Before this adventure I never knew that nurseries had sales of up to 70% off in the fall. Makes sense I guess, I just never really thought about it because I didn't need to know. (AHHH the good old days). In the end, we actually saved almost one and a half times what we spent. Crazy, huh?

We paid the $55 extra to get them delivered and this is how the two Techny Arborvitaes, four Dark Green American Arborvitaes, and two Norwegian Spruces were left...along with dirt and mulch.




Oh, we also had DigSafe come out and mark out our underground wires just to be safe. We didn't want to dig a huge hole by hand only to hit electrical wires. Dangerous and a waste of time. This is a free service in Maine and the surrounding states. I am not sure if they have it in other states, but it is always good to be safe and take the extra precautions.



Now, it is important to know that I had a baby about four weeks before the trees were delivered, so I was supposed to be doing things like digging giant holes. This meant that Hubs got stuck doing all the manual labor. (Poor Guy) We were supposed to get some help from our "Dirt Guy," but he must have been too busy to fit us in, sooo we were on our own.

Here are some of the lovely holes:
 And then we hit the rock pile that was left over from when they blasted for our foundation. This slowed the digging considerably, but my wonderful husband took lemons and made lemonade (as they say) and constructed a lovely rock wall as he went.
When all the holes were dug, he started putting up the trees. Here he is, hard at work. To the left is one of the Dark Green American Arborvitaes that he put in.
 Here is another view of some of the progress...

 And, of course the boys were HUGE helpers. At least, the two older ones were.


What, are you not supposed to dig holes for trees with snow shovels and lacrosse sticks?



All I can say is, I love this man. He worked for over twelve hours straight putting these stupid lovely trees in. By the end he was covered scratches from the needles on the spruces. I tried to help repeatedly, but was not allowed.







Now we have some more privacy. It isn't ideal, yet, but we hope that when the trees grow a little we will have just as much privacy as we did before they sold the lot next door. If not, well we put some equity in the house for when we sell, right?


Thursday, January 3, 2013

Thinking about building a new home? A little advice (#1)

The whole reason I started this blog was to tell the story of how we built our house and how we are turning it into a home. Let me just start by saying that we love our home. It has given us exactly what we needed, space, solitude, energy efficiency... BUT there are a few things that you should know, or a least consider, before making the decision to build a home.

One of the main reasons that we decided to build was that we couldn't find anything we wanted to buy. Also, we happened to come across an affordable development, with MOST of the things that we were looking for as far as location, and a builder that built houses we LOVED. So plus, plus, plus, right?

First piece of advice: if your location of your newly built home only has "most" of the things that you love, make sure that you are okay with settling and going without the things that it doesn't have. In my case, I was moving farther from the water, which is something that I tend to gravitate towards to help calm me when I am stressed or upset.

Our old home had a great state park which is an island in the bay that was within walking distance (under a mile). I spent many an hour or two exploring the woods, the rocky beach, crying, seeking solitude by sitting on the old weather beaten benches overlooking the bay, running the path around the island, etc. This island was my "go to" place.

The new home does not have this wonderful feature (I know, I was COMPLETELY spoiled before). But what it does have is a state park about 4 and 1/2 miles away with access to the ocean. As a result of the move, my runs have gotten much longer (@8 miles) just so I can see the ocean. Maybe this is a perk?

Second piece of advice: don't let them tell you that having a "new house" will take all of your home maintenance worries away. Since buying the house we have discovered that we have to put in an air mitigation system (pretty typical in our area for new construction). Also, I am constantly looking for moisture in our basement. Apparently you have to wait at least a year to find out if your basement has moisture. One of the things I am counting I is being able to remodel the basement into a playroom. This will be an issue if there is moisture In the basement. There are other things that I worry about but I don't want you to think that I am totally neurotic, so I will stop there. Just to be clear, new house does not equal the end to worry.

Third, and final, piece of advice (for today): find a builder that you trust and who does work that you like. If you are someone who wants a craftsman home, but your builder typically builds something else, it may be a good idea to keep looking. Our builder was able to give us great advice on design and finishes as we went. Even though we didn't go with (couldn't afford) them all, the ideas were great and got us thinking. On top of that, our builder is a great guy who we could talk to easily, who listened to us and wanted to do what was right and best for us, and who has continued to help us out when things pop up (see Advice #2).

So, my wrap up for today is location, honest expectations, and trusting your builder, are key to knowing when, and if, you should build a new home. More later!

Happy decision making.
:) A